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Summary: "He'd left the door open, as we'd arranged online. I went upstairs, and there he was, tied to the bed, blindfolded. But to my surprise, another man . . .

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"He'd left the door open, as we'd arranged online. I went upstairs, and there he was, tied to the bed, blindfolded. But to my surprise, another man was already there, plowing him. When he was done and had gone, I pulled on a condom and took my turn. And while I was inside, still another guy came into the room - somebody, actually, that I myself had played with before. The two of us worked over the scheming little bottomboy for a while, but then still another man arrived. I shot my load and left. I don't know what happened after that."

Sounds hot. Also sounds dangerous. Still, being mercilessly used by a gang of ultra-nasty men - one guy's dick in his mouth, one up his butt, another hard cock in each hand, while a bunch of other hard, horny beasts stand around waiting their turns - ranks high on many a bottomboy's hit parade of hot fantasies.

In a way, this might be thought of as selfishness. After all, what pig bottom wouldn't enjoy receiving all that attention? And let's face it, it's usually a submissive's fantasy; most tops would rather get hold of more than just a fraction of a bottom's charms. But a bottom may view it as just the opposite, proof of his sexual generosity. He's selflessly giving pleasure to all those guys; surely any top can appreciate that!

It's all in the way you look at it. And how the scene plays out. While this sort of heavy-duty sexual drama is most easily negotiated among men who already know each other, the fantasy of the gang bang usually revolves around being used mercilessly by strangers, in turn or all at once. So, while good gang-fuck scenes should be well-negotiated, consensual, and safe, they may well have the appearance of brutal assault. But it's all in twisted fun. Tops should understand and honor a bottom's limits. A good bottom should do more than lie there like a sensation-greedy pig. "Often," says one experienced gang-banger, "especially if the bottom seems self-centered, the real bonding takes place among us tops. It's a guy thing."

Someone who leaves his door open and accommodates all comers is, of course, just asking for trouble. Big time. Participants should be carefully chosen, limits explicitly set. But even in well-planned gang bang scenes, lust can push things over the top. Tops can be swept along into risky behavior, and bottoms can allow something stupid to happen. So substance use should be avoided or kept to a minimum, and there should always be plenty of rubbers and lube around. A "safe word" for the bottom - an agreed-on word that means "Stop right now!" - is also a good idea, even for guys who don't usually use safe words in one-on-one play. And of course, the least risky gang bangs take place at sex parties where other, uninvolved guys are present and can monitor the scene.

While some of us, somewhere along the line, will play out gang-bang scenes, many others will leave them safely in the realm of jack-off fantasy, and that's fine, too. As one inexperienced bottom says, "The idea is really hot, but I'm afraid the reality could be disappointing." That's true for any erotic fantasy, of course, but the appeal of the gang bang is a particularly high-voltage dream. The idea of someone becoming just a sex-hungry piece of meat while tough, ravening men ruthlessly take their pleasure, or the thrill of being one of those tops, taking part in using some degraded slut ... hey, it may sound dehumanizing, it may sound brutal, but that's exactly the hard-on producing point.

Simon Sheppard is the author of Hotter Than Hell and Other Stories (Alyson Books). He can be reached care of this publication or at mailto:smutsmith@aol.com.

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