CruisingProtocols

CapnDan writes: what protocol you use, depends on location, that is, which CruisingAreas.

In a str8 bar

the standard technique is to buy the dude beer, chat him up, laugh at his jokes, and mention that you have something at home - dope or str8 porn is the usual.

In a washroom

• Give the guy some idea that you're wanking. Can be anything from casting a shadow of your wanking hand to allowing them to peep at your crotch thru a hole or the crack in the door.
• There is an old "tap foot" protocol for t-room stall cruising, but it's not much used any more. You tap, the guy in the stall next to you taps, you tap twice, he answers twice.
• I have heard of people using a "three flushes" protocol but never seen it in use.

In the car with a hitch hiker

*Typically, if a guy picks you up hitch hiking at night and is chatty he wants something. If you are hitchhiking at night you probably want something more than a lift. Let the guy lead the discussion a little, gauge friendliness. If you feel comfortable, say you wish there was a party to go to or you really dont feel like going home yet and see what happens.

On the street

The classic is to look back at your target and see that he is looking back at you. The timing of this works bizarrely well. Then you look back again and he's looking back again. Eventually one of you stops and leans against the wall or looks in a store window, the other turns around and you make some conversation. In many parts of the world, but not North America, you look at the target, he grabs his crotch.

In the GayBars

There are a fascinating variety. By the way, the energy you give off when you're in a bar with a friend is much better than when you're in the bar alone. So make an effort to take a friend out with you, you'll get more guys hitting on you and a better success rate when you put the moves on your target.

• Stand And Model and hope that someone comes over and talks to you. Sometimes works. Advantages: you never get rejected, it's you who'll be doing the rejecting. Disadvantages: good chance of going home alone even if you're a catch.
• S&M as above but when you make eye contact, grab your crotch. This is the public cruising protocol in many parts of the world.
• Chat Up your target with smalltalk. If you get rejected, move on. You can either try to be someone more fabulous than you are, or not, either has about the same success rate.
• Get a friend to tell your target that you think he's cute. This sounds sophomoric but works as well as anything.

Outdoors in a cruising park

Any of the outdoor CruisingAreas. One common protocol is to walk past your target by a certain distance and stop. He will walk past you a certain distance, and stop. Repeat until you feel like approaching. Make smalltalk, grab your crotch. If you get a similar signal, grab his.

At the bath house

Halifax's bath is SeaDogsSauna

• in a room, the person outside the room walks on if he's not interested. The guy inside the room either does a "come hither" motion, or says, "no thanks" or "I'm just resting."
• In the sauna, make eye contact and touch your cock to some level of hardness. If you are the subject of unwanted attention, the protocol is to stare pointedly at something else, e.g. the TV.
• In other areas, grab the outline of your cock in your towel OR your nipple OR scruff your belly fur and smile. If you have good self control, lifting the front of your towel without touching it is always impressive.

CitadelHill

has its own protocols - see its page

Other

• People used to use, some people still do, HankyCodes to indicate their preferences.
• [More locations and methods here]

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